With all the emphasis on virginity as virtue’s Holy Grail, if a Christian woman isn’t a virgin when she marries, she’s made to feel that she has somehow disqualified herself from God’s greatest blessings and callings. That’s how Sarah Bessey explains the unfortunate subtext of much of the purity speak that is happening in our churches in her recent post “I Am Damaged Goods.”
“In the face of our sexually dysfunctional culture, the church longs to stand as an outpost of God’s ways of love and marriage, purity and wholeness,” she wrote. “And yet we twist that until we treat someone like me… as if our value and worth was tied up in our virginity.”
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Read the rest of my post today at Christianity Today's blog for women as I try and answer this question: How do we talk about sexual sin in ways that don’t shame and yet stay faithful to the biblical truth that sex outside of marriage is, after all, sin (Heb. 13:4)?